Drop your belief that other people care if your house is clean.
They don’t care.
Tonight I’m going to a broadway show so I’m getting fancy.
The tickets are free because my husband, Jeff, is a musician in the pit. This is why I married him– for free tickets to musicals because I LOVE MUSICALS!
What I don’t love, is applying make-up.
I don’t like painting my nails. I don’t like wearing high heels. I’d really rather wear elastic waist pants and flats 24/7.
Doing this stuff–getting dressed up–today makes me realize that putting on makeup and getting dressed up is like organizing your house. Actually it’s like tidying your house.
Confident and happy
I may not like to fix my hair or put on evening wear. But I know that once I’m ready and looking good, I feel more confident which in turn contributes to my happiness level. Just like having a tidy house can give people more confidence and increase their happiness at home. Heeyy!!
If I straighten my hair and put lipstick on… get out of town I can conquer the world!
When I don’t wear makeup I don’t think I’m less valuable or less worthy of respect or money or anything. On the other hand, when I go out of the house with no makeup on nobody ever says anything about it to me. I don’t think they notice! They certainly don’t care.So let's be real: We're wearing the makeup for ourselves. Click To Tweet
Who’s judging whom?
In the same way, when people drop by to pick up their kid from your house, or they bring something over and end up staying to talk a minute they don’t care what your house looks like!
Magazines and TV can make us think people and homes are naturally flawless and ready for a photo. Neither is true. So, don’t over-apologize for the state of your house when people are visiting. They don’t care if there are toys on the table or dishes in the sink. They really don’t!If you feel like other women are judging you, 99% of the time it’s your own inner-critic you are hearing. Click To Tweet
Special events like hosting Thanksgiving call for you to tidy up so your guests feel special. Just like going to the theater calls for something nicer than blue jeans. But when people just drop by on a regular day, they aren’t expecting your house to look like a magazine. I’m sure their house doesn’t either!
Be your own motivation
Getting motivated to do regular, upkeep tidying is tricky. Just like for me grooming a little bit extra for everyday doesn’t seem really fun.
Try changing your mindset by thinking this:
Straightening an area of your home is a little gift you give yourself. You’ll feel proud and maybe even smile at how nice it looks.
Don’t run around putting things away with vitriol in your veins, angry about why you (or your family) left stuff lying around in the first place. Clean it up because your own happiness is all the motivation you need.
- The Fly Lady’s zone cleaning technique is really popular.
- Pick a video from our Clutter Challenge series for 20 minute cleaning of an area.
- UFYH has some motivating ideas I really like, too.
It’s okay to be messy
Embrace the chores at which you excel. Delegate the ones you hate. Here’s another great post I wrote about that very thing: Doing it all; Home care ideas from a professional organizer
I’m glad you are here. I’m glad you are messy. If everyone were as organized as me, life would be pretty boring.
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